Where was her husband while she was in the hospital giving birth?

"I was in the hospital in labor. where was my husband? He said that he was coming"..these were the desperate thoughts of a mother in labor wondering where her husband was. Had he been in a car wreck or some other tragedy. "where was he?"

After the birth (without the husband) and Mother and child returned home she was sitting with a friend who told her that she had a feeling....the two of them went over to the family computer and the friend hit the keys Ctrl H which brought up the history of where the computer had been surfing to. To the horror of the new mom, she found out that during the entire time that she had been in labor that he had been back at the house, not taking her calls, gorging on internet pornography.

To suggest that she was heart broken wouldn't begin to cover the range of emotions. Rage, betrayal, hurt, abandonment....fill in the blank. Her first response was to demand that he get out of the house and that she wanted a divorce. As they had been married for several years and already had children she cooled off somewhat and she told him that they were going to get counseling and that he was going to put a filter on his computer with a accountability feature that would allow her to see where he was surfing in a place that could not be erased. If he was unwilling then he could get out!

This is where I came in and heard the story. She called me at Wisechoice.net, my filtering company and we talked for a long time. Ultimately they did go to counseling and they did install the filter on the computer to prevent access to the porn sites as well as the feature that shed light on what he was doing.

Once again, the power of internet porn was so great that this otherwise devoted husband exchanged being at the birth of their new child for a pile of garbage. He nearly lost his marriage, his kids and of course his reputation was going to be lost as well.

So far so good, it appears that they are holding this marriage together but it has been hard word work requiring forgiveness. The loss of trust between he and his wife may never be recovered.

If porn is being used in your house there are ways to deal with it...let me know and I will be happy to discuss it.

about the author Ned Dominick: Since 1998 after nearly falling into this same trap I began to hunt for solutions for porn use by adults. I came up with a combination of a filtering technology and accountability reporting called Wisechoice.net. Rather than a solution designed for guarding children, Wisechoice is designed to protect husbands and marriages from porn. The addictive properties are such that putting a wall around ones self is often the only way short of getting rid of the computer entirely and it is effective. I would suggest checking our solution out or one of the other filters available.

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