Kicked Him to the Curb!

I was listening to a radio call in show today as a man was be-moaning the fact that his wife had thrown him out of the house because of his porn use. " I told her that I had turned over a new leaf and that I wouldn't do it again...but why wouldn't she forgive me?" Her answer was that, sure, she would forgive him but she wasn't going to believe him.

This is an old story and one that is familiar to many wives. Husband is busted for using Internet porn, wife is devastated and he promises to be good. Two months later he is busted again (probably by the porn pop ups all over the computer screen). Once again she is devastated, feeling betrayed. Another couple of months pass and she finds even more porn on the computer. This time she wonders what she has done wrong, has she gotten too old and fat. This time she doesn't even mention it to her husband but talks it over with her lady friends. It turns out that most of them has had similar experiences but they all thought they were alone.

If anyone has ever been around a group of ladies who realized that they were all being wronged by their men then you know that there was about to be hell to pay. The lady of this story, we will call her Heather, agreed with the girls that she would give him one more chance to change his evil ways. She realized that this was his problem and not hers. Heather went to her husband once again and was tearfully assured that he was through with all of the porn, that  God had gotten him through this, he even went to a seminar for help...."OK said Heather, last chance....."

You can guess the next thing. Husband is back into it almost immediately. This time Heather didn't even bother to confront him, instead she got a lawyer, had the locks changed and set his bags on the curb....along with his computer.

This is such a recurring tale. Porn use is the fastest growing cause for divorce in America. Most of us guys really would like to be good, we don't want to lose our families but we keep going right back to the vomit until we lose it all. Wouldn't it be nice if there was a way to stay clear of porn and have our wives believe it. There is a way!

It is called accountability reporting. This is a neat little software that will store your surfing history where you can't erase it and which will give your wife or counselor access to see. Some of these softwares will actually send a text or email if it appears that we are trying to surf to a porn sites. Imagine the thought that your wife was getting a text message that you were searching for porn. NO THANKS!

That is in fact the key to the process. No one wants to be busted by their wives or friends. The Bible says that where there is light the darkness must flee. It is the rare husband who will surf to porn sites in full view of his wife. Some  You can add filtering to it as well which will help with the "accidental" porn site from popping up.
Some of the more powerful accountability programs include  wisechoice.net or xxxchurch. They are inexpensive and effective.

By the way, the husband in our story did not get his family back, no happy ending to this story...